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Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl eBook
Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl eBook
£12.00
Are you the Fallback Girl?
If you’ve ever found yourself in a relationship that feels and seemingly looks like one, but you’re struggling with commitment, or you’ve been in the ambiguous territory of a ‘casual relationship’, you’ve expended much time, energy, effort and emotion deciphering what the hell is going on.
You’ve likely tried to change them. Maybe you’ve wondered what you ‘did’ to cause this or what you can do to win their love and commitment, or even whether you’re going crazy.
Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the definitive guide to understanding the relationship between emotionally unavailable men and the women that love them. From explaining how and why they blow hot and cold, to where that future they promised went to, how you’ve ended up being a booty call, why you’ve been together for a gazillion years but aren’t going anywhere, and more importantly how and why you’re involved with them in the first place, all of the answers are here. You know you’re dealing with unavailability when you ask stuff like:
- What happened to that ‘great guy’ from the beginning?
- Why won’t he break up or stay away if he doesn’t want to commit?
- What the hell did I do to make him disappear?
- Is he going to leave ‘her’ for me?
- It’s because he’s shy/busy/scared of his feelings, isn’t it?
Inspired by the real-life adventures in unavailability of myself and the readers of my site BaggageReclaim.com, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is an empowering, entertaining and inspiring read that will wise you up to pitfalls such as men who aren’t over their exes, Future Fakers, guys that have more baggage than a Heathrow terminal and reappearing childhood ‘sweethearts’.
If you want to understand your own availability, and why commitment in a healthy relationship is eluding you, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is your guide to being available and attracted to healthy, available partners.
About this Version
This package includes the ePub version which works on iPhones, iPads (use in apps like iBooks and Goodreader) as well as suitable for the Nook. This package includes an exclusive Feelings Diary worksheet, a beliefs guide worth £5, a Do I Need To Cut Contact Worksheet, plus the Unsent Letter Guide and worksheets. You can also buy a Kindle version of this book on Amazon. Please note the Kindle version does not come with the extras this PDF pack contains.
Downloading
After you’ve completed the checkout process, you will receive an email within a few minutes of ordering with the links for downloading your ebook files.
Please refer to eBook FAQS if you have any queries.
Want to purchase a physical copy?
UK and Europe – Readers can purchase Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl from Amazon.co.uk. Signed copies are available through this shop – purchase a signed copy.
US & Canada – Available in Paperback via Amazon.com and also via Createspace, which is also part of Amazon. Createspace also make the book available through various online sellers which you can check via the Amazon.com link.
All other countries – Where applicable on Amazon.com and also via its subsidiaries and sellers.
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Curbing Your Obsession Quick Guide (ebook)
Curbing Your Obsession Quick Guide (ebook)
£4.99
Sometimes we find it hard to recover from a loss or feel as if we’ve been abandoned again which can resurrect old wounds. We can become fixated on where we think that we went wrong or the injustice of the outcome or plotting strategies to tip the situation in our favour. Next thing our days, weeks, months and even years are lost in repeatedly going over the chain of events, checking up on their activities online, torturing ourselves over what is put on Facebook et al, or doing stuff to gain attention and prevent what we perceive as an unfavourable outcome. Somewhere along the way, we lose sight of ourselves and our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health can be severely impacted if we don’t step in and help ourselves and seek additional support.
If you’re stuck in a cycle of unhealthy thinking and behaviour due to a toxic cocktail of blame, shame, ruminating, jealousy, possessiveness and almost constant fear, you’re experiencing obsession and you’re far from being alone. Recognising what you’re experiencing and where these thoughts and feelings come from are the first steps to breaking the cycle and getting to a healthier, happier you.
In this detailed Quick Guide, I explain obsession, where these feelings and thoughts are coming from and what you’re trying to achieve when you keep repeating the cycle of behaviour and thinking, along with tips and tools to help you move forward.
Please refer to eBook FAQS if you have any queries.
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The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship eBook
The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship eBook
£11.00
Most people if asked, would deny that they’d ever had a fantasy relationship as they’re associated with pretending to be with someone or in something that’s non-existent, however, it’s time for you to change what you think you know.
In this modern age of texts, email, Facebook, online dating, and casual relationships, it’s never been so easy to find yourself in a crumb filled fantasy relationship. An increasing number of people are satisfied with sprinklings of attention and interaction which they use to give themselves the illusion of being loved, cared for and in control because they get to avoid commitment, intimacy, and ‘full-on’ rejection.
The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship is for every woman who’s been caught short by their overactive imagination and their great expectations.
Struggled to get over a relationship that didn’t truly exist? Don’t understand how you wound up spending years with someone you hardly see? Keep letting your assumptions and projections run away with you?It’s time to come back down to earth and face reality so you can take action in your present, face your real future, and get happy.
Acting as a companion guide to Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, the no holds barred ‘bible’ for understanding excuse filled, commitment dodging, unavailable men and the women that they fall back on for an ego stroke, shag, and a shoulder to lean on, I wanted to introduce a new role due to the sheer number of emails and comments I receive from women who actually believe that the crumbs that they’re receiving, particularly via cheap talk, grand promises, texts, email and Facebook are a relationship or ‘love’.
You need to read this if:
You’re an Escapist, dissatisfied with your current relationship, mentally checking out, complaining about your expectations not being met, and even starting an affair with someone else.
You’re a Crusher, ‘loving’ and admiring someone from a distance that puts you in that unreciprocated feelings setting.
You’re a Virtual, spending too much time surfing dating sites, relying on the written word and getting high off the buzz of a text or email coming through.
You’re a Tabber, angry, hurt and feeling rejected because your relationship is over so regaining a sense of control by devoting your time and energy to tracking your ex via social networking and poking around in his life.
The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship explains how fantasy relationships work, why they’re so attractive, the types of fantasy relationship and Mr Unavailable that you’re likely to be involved with, and provides practical tips and tools for breaking the habit and tackling issues such as rejection avoidance, and fear of abandonment, criticism and conflict. Delivered with my no-fluff dose of reality and plenty of humour, I want to empower you to let go of the illusions so that you can be available for an available relationship in the real world.
About this Version
This is a PDF and the pack of files, which includes a Feelings Diary worksheet, The Mini Guide To No Contact, Beliefs Guide, Get Out of Stuck (free version) and the Unsent Letters.
Downloading
After you have been through checkout and paid, you will be given the option to download the file. The email contains links to each of the files in your purchase.
If you have any problems please get in contact us where we can deal with your query promptly – you may find that your query can be resolved by checking out the FAQ.
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How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide
How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide
£4.99
When we’re reliant on external esteem to feel happy and secure, we end up feeling anything but these; instead, we end up reliant on stuff, substances, unhealthy actions, and the validation of others. We look outside of us to feel better and end up feeling as if we have no control over our lives. Each time we experience an emotion that we have a negative association with, we try to push it down or away. In turn, when we want to feel good, we end up looking for artificial boosts that provide us with temporary relief and happy feelings but are underpinned by blame and shame.
It doesn’t have to be like this.
Clients, readers and listeners ask me about initial steps that they can take that will enable them to learn how to take care of their feelings and to calm down responses in situations where they tend to engage in unhealthy self-soothing. They do some of their worst self-destruction in response to feelings of loneliness, boredom or stress, often breaking No Contact because of the onset of discomfort and having no inner support and tools to respond in a constructive and loving manner.
This Quick Guide was created for students of my online courses, with many citing it as being invaluable as it’s designed to help you to get into the process quickly. It includes suggestions as well as prompts to help you brainstorm ways in which you can comfort you as well as promoting an honest conversation about the things that are dragging you down.
It includes the Feelings Diary Journaling Guide, which has prompts to help you support your self-soothing by jotting down your feelings as well as a Day Tracker worksheet, perfect for getting conscious, aware, and present about your day. While this worksheet is aimed at people who struggle with reaching out to someone toxic, the worksheet can simply be used to track your days so that you can gather data on what is and isn’t working for you.
What happens after purchase?
You will receive a receipt confirming your purchase and an email with the download links for the ebook and accompanying resources. Files are issued as PDFs (readable on everything, plus printable) and, where applicable, ePubs, a mobile device version that needs to be opened through the appropriate app (your mobile device will point you to this). Check out the FAQ for ebooks.
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Get Out of Stuck ebook and worksheet pack
Get Out of Stuck ebook and worksheet pack
£7.49
Challenge & transform unhealthy beliefs so that you can reclaim you.
Over one hundred thousand people have taken my 21-day Get Out of Stuck email course (or used the previous mini version) and I’m frequently asked for a printable version as well as something that can be read on various devices in one go.
Get Out of Stuck is the Baggage Reclaim process for homing in on unhealthy beliefs and associations that are keeping you stuck in a pattern that isn’t working for you. If you’ve taken many rides on the disappointment cycle and are wondering how your thinking is affecting your attitude and choices, this is the guide for you. This guide takes a compassionate look under the hood of beliefs and helps you to uncover the motivations and past experiences that are driving you today.
The ebook features 21 lessons packed with actionable tools and mindset-shifts that have helped me to transform my own life and live and love with my self-esteem in tow. If you’re tired of winding up in variations of the same situation with similar people in different packages; if you’re tired of feeling afraid or feeling gripped by something from your past, Get Out of Stuck is a healing process that will arm you with compassionate tools to give you your freedom. I developed this process and guide in response to the many requests for insight into how I’ve healed and grown my own self-awareness and self-knowledge.
The first half of the lessons give you grounding insights into how beliefs work and why you have the ones that you do and the remaining lessons take you through the process. There are worksheets to help you shine a light of awareness on your underlying beliefs and this pack includes a ‘releasing exercise’ that isn’t included in the [now closed] email version of the course, along with my Feelings Diary Journaling Guide and the Unsent Letter Guide. Your purchase includes two versions of the ebook – the PDF which is for printing, reading on computers, and basically opens on any device and the ePub which is specially formatted for mobile devices like phones, tablets and eReaders (excluding Kindle).
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The No Contact Rule ebook
The No Contact Rule ebook
£12.00
You’re trying to get over your ex, yet you’re still in touch and have ended up being their back-up plan. Maybe you haven’t left yet, but you want to and just don’t know how. Maybe you’re tired of doing the lather, rinse, repeat of getting back together and winding back at square one.
It’s time to cut contact.
The No Contact Rule is an inspiring guide to extinguishing the temptation to stay in touch or to keep engaging, helping you to reclaim your sense of self and move on to a healthier relationship.
I’ve helped thousands of people break free from unhealthy relationships and breakups after using No Contact to kick a toxic relationship and transform my life. Discover what ‘NC’ is and how to do it, how to break an unhealthy cycle and navigate various situations – from Facebook to pesky texts, working together, sharing a child or feeling trapped by your feelings and thoughts. Cut contact and put the focus on you. By treating you with the love, care, trust and respect you deserve, this could be one of the best decisions you’ve ever made.
About this Version
This is the 2nd edition of this book and is more than double the original size. For a detailed description, see The No Contact Rule book page over at Baggage Reclaim. Please note that not all items that are available with this purchase are available with other formats.
Downloading
After you have been through checkout and paid, you will be given the option to download the file. There are three tries for downloading.
Your email contains a list of the files available for downloading.
PDF is a standard file format which is great for reading on your computer, printing and can also be read on various mobile apps like Goodreader.
Epub is specifically formatted for mobile devices and eReaders (Apple iPad/iBooks, Nook, Sony Reader, Kobo, and most e-reading apps including Stanza, Aldiko, Adobe Digital Editions, and Readability. It doesn’t work on Kindle). Your pack also includes a Feelings Diary worksheet and The Unsent Letter Guide 2nd edition ebook and worksheet.
If you have any problems downloading, please get in contact us where we can deal with your query promptly – you may find that your query can be resolved by checking out the FAQ.
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100 Days of Baggage Reclaim
100 Days of Baggage Reclaim
£7.49
Are you ready to change how you feel about yourself and transform your life?
One hundred days from now you’ll get to meet the new, improved, happier you!
The key to feeling good and having a great relationship is treating and regarding yourself with love, care, trust and respect before you develop those feelings for another person. Easy, right? If you’re already shaking your head, then I understand, and it’s precisely why I created this 100-day project.
We rarely take the time to appreciate and love anything about ourselves. So how can we expect others to develop those feelings?
I’ve been where you are and know first hand the change you will feel when you learn to let go of excess emotional baggage. Not only can it instantly make a difference to your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being but it also makes space for more loving experiences and relationships. And when you are confident and comfortable in your own skin, you’ll soon draw in the right people, things and situations for you.
Wouldn’t it feel great to just know what to do and how to get what you wanted? You can begin today and start to make sense of your past experiences and habits.
Investing a little time and energy into you each day makes a significant difference if you’re self-critical, prone to people pleasing, or you struggle to create, forge and sustain healthy relationships.
100 Days of Baggage Reclaim is packed with plenty of bite-sized doses of inspiration, mindset shifts, tips and practices to help you make radical shifts in a relatively short period. Some of the days are about stretching your thought process, while others involve trying something new or achieving a small task. This will all help to build your self-esteem, change unhealthy habits of thinking and behaviour and encourage a far more positive frame of mind.
Also included are journaling prompts to help you increase self-awareness and inner-knowledge so that by the end, you know ‘you’ far better than you did before. You might even surprise yourself!
Afterwards, you’ll find you are less inclined to get sucked into unhealthy patterns. The pace is entirely up to you so you can, of course, read ahead or just take it a day at a time — whichever feels right for you. Many of the Baggage Reclaim tribe have mentioned that there is so much valuable knowledge they dip back into it every now and then to help them stay on track in the long-term.
Get to know and love the real you, boost your confidence, and bake self-care into the day-to-day of your life.
About this Version
This ebook like everything from Baggage Reclaim is in British English. The download package includes the ePub version which works on iPhones, iPads (use in apps like iBooks and Goodreader) as well as being suitable for the Nook. You will receive a zip file which you need to download and open to access the files.
There is also a PDF version which can be used on any device including phones and computers.
Downloading
After you’ve completed the checkout process, you will receive an email within a few minutes of ordering with the links for downloading your ebook files. You have 30 days and 3 attempts to download the files.
Please refer to eBook FAQS if you have any queries.
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Love, Care, Trust & Respect ebook
Love, Care, Trust & Respect ebook
£6.49
In my latest book, I teach you how to reclaim your relationships from the jaws of pain, fear and guilt by sharing the vital ingredients of loving relationships so that you can dispense with the so-called rules and enjoy more mutually fulfilling relationships. I’ve taken more than a decade’s worth of teachings and distilled them into this compassionate manual, jam-packed with powerful insights into what makes healthy relationships tick.
- Has a lack of healthy template while growing up left you confused about what a loving relationship involves?
- Has the way that you feel about you been reflected in settling for less than what you need and deserve?
- Does it feel as if no matter what you do, you keep winding up in similar relationships, leaving you frustrated and lacking in confidence?
- Is your emotional baggage holding you back but you don’t know why or where to start?
It’s not unusual to have an idea of what’s needed in a relationship but to then struggle to put these into practice or recognise them, leading to confusion, frustration and disappointment that affects your confidence to create, forge and sustain healthy relationships, or that keeps you in unfulfilling and unhealthy ones long past their sell-by-date. There are a lot of so-called rules and I explain why these don’t work, instead offering universal principles that apply in every mutually fulfilling relationship.
Discover the five landmarks and four qualities for a loving partner, why casual relationships are like zero-hours contracts, the key relationship blocks, their symptoms, why they cause pain, fear and guilt and how to begin dissolving them, and discover the purpose of your relationships and how to enjoy more love, care, trust and respect.
Your purchase includes the PDF file (opens on everything) and an ePub file (specially formatted for mobile devices–this file comes in a Zip file that needs to be unzipped on your computer and then you can email/Bluetooth/transfer the file to the device of your choice).
Want the Kindle version instead? Amazon.co.uk | Amazon.com
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Sale!
How To Say No: The Scripts
How To Say No: The Scripts
£9.95
How To Say No: The Scripts: Over four hundred scripts to help you say no when you need, should or want to.
Saying no is something that so many people struggle with. At a time when so many people are experiencing anxiety, burnout, overwhelm, toxic stress, persistent guilt and resentment, as well as depression, learning when and how to say no is pivotal to our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing. But where do we start when we’re so used to saying yes and dealing with the fallout later, and when we’re unsure about what terms like boundaries, self-care, self-love and boundaries mean in the first place?
Cue How To Say No: The Scripts. Coaching you through a plethora of situations, I will teach you to say no when you need, should or want to so that you can create healthy boundaries, respect and nurture your bandwidth, and be more you.
From straight, no-chaser no’s, to no’s with reasons, to no with family, friends, co-workers, bosses and love interests, to situations like money, making a complaint, dealing with pushy people, and having low bandwidth or struggling with your mental health, I’ve created 400+ scripts that you can use as is or tweak to suit.
What you will get
- 400 scripts for face-to-face, over the phone or text/email.
- PDF (all devices and can print out) and ePub (file for ereaders/apps excl. Kindle)
- Tips and guidance for a variety of situations
- Your self-respect and confidence
After you complete your purchase, you will receive an email receipt followed by an email containing your download links. If you are a Gmail, Hotmail, Yahoo or Comcast user, you might need to do a global search of your inbox because they filter emails to various sub-inboxes. If, for some reason, you haven’t received your emails, please email shop@baggagereclaim.co.uk so that the emails can be reissued.
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How To Break Up – The Scripts
How To Break Up – The Scripts
£7.95
- A selection of adaptable scripts for short involvements, casual relationships, when they’re a ‘lovely’ person, long-distance, incompatibility, when they don’t agree, and affairs.
- Scripts and tips that deal with sticking points like articulating your needs, not feeling the same way, being unhappy about something that happened, not being over your ex, significant differences, emotional unavailability, name-calling and more.
- Scripts that suit texts as well as email or verbal conversations.
- Plenty of tips to help you approach breaking up with a mindset and attitude that reflects love, care, trust and respect.
If you don’t know what to say, find that you’re saying too much or too little or find the break-up process very daunting, help is at hand. In more than a decade of coaching people through their breakups and other sticky situations, I’ve become familiar with where we tend to get stuck. Many people spend their time analysing their relationship or obsessing about how to avoid hurting the other person’s feelings or how to avoid conflict and criticism. The result? More angst, stress, tension, frustration, hurt, anger, resentment and going back and forth. Or they don’t leave or opt for ghosting. It doesn’t have to be this way. I’ve put together a series of scripts to suit a plethora of situations, and my guide essentially coaches you through the practicalities of breaking up.
Please note that these scripts don’t cover asking for a divorce although the advice will certainly help with articulating issues.
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Work Through Your No Contact Doubts Workbook
Work Through Your No Contact Doubts Workbook
£4.99
It’s not uncommon to find it difficult to move forward after a breakup due to boundary issues or feeling overconnected through the likes of texting and social media. When this happens, it’s likely that you will consider or make the decision to go No Contact. Even though this is a healthy and often necessary decision, doubt can cause you not to make it or to keep breaking it once you’ve started.
My Work Through Your No Contact Doubts workbook helps you to uncover and work through your No Contact doubts so that you don’t undermine your feelings, needs and desires, but also so that you understand what’s truly driving you in those times of doubt.
Format: PDF (it’s editable so that you can type into it, or you can print it out).
No of pages: 9
After purchase, you will receive your download link via email.
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Facing Regret Journaling Guide
Facing Regret Journaling Guide
£7.49
“If I could turn back time, if I could find a way!”
Cher sang these words back in the eighties to lament her inability to go back in time and take back everything she regretted doing to the object of her affections. Hindsight, of course, gives us 20:20 vision hence why we experience regret. As humans, we will all experience and move on from this, but why do some of our regrets cause us to feel paralysed about how to move forward or have us going round in circles in a relationship or situation long past its sell-by-date>
Well, it’s because the way that we’re looking at things is the problem. We’ve got used to telling the story in the same way and beating ourselves up. It’s very possible that we think we’ve blown something or that we’ve ‘lost’. It’s wounding when we feel and think like this, and it sends us into a vicious cycle that knocks our sense of self. So what can we do instead?
In my Facing Regret Journaling Guide, I help you to compassionately interrogate your regret with a series of journaling prompts so that you can adjust your perspective enough to begin healing and feeling better. Acceptance, not of incorrect stories, but of what really happened and who you really are gets your engine going again. You stop feeling stuck and start moving forward.
In the guide, you’ll discover
- Why the very thing that you think shouldn’t have happened might be precisely the right thing that needed to happen
- What persistently regretting something can be a cover for
- Questions to help you look at the same story you’ve maybe told yourself a thousand times in an entirely different way
You will receive:
- Facing Regret Journaling Guide (PDF)
- Facing Regret Journaling Guide (MP3 audio version – 41 minutes)
- Journaling | Tips To Get You Started (PDF)