Curbing Your Obsession Quick Guide (ebook)
Sometimes we find it hard to recover from a loss or feel as if we’ve been abandoned again which can resurrect old wounds. We can become fixated on where we think that we went wrong or the injustice of the outcome or plotting strategies to tip the situation in our favour. Next thing our days, weeks, months and even years are lost in repeatedly going over the chain of events, checking up on their activities online, torturing ourselves over what is put on Facebook et al, or doing stuff to gain attention and prevent what we perceive as an unfavourable outcome. Somewhere along the way, we lose sight of ourselves and our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health can be severely impacted if we don’t step in and help ourselves and seek additional support.
If you’re stuck in a cycle of unhealthy thinking and behaviour due to a toxic cocktail of blame, shame, ruminating, jealousy, possessiveness and almost constant fear, you’re experiencing obsession and you’re far from being alone. Recognising what you’re experiencing and where these thoughts and feelings come from are the first steps to breaking the cycle and getting to a healthier, happier you.
In this detailed Quick Guide, I explain obsession, where these feelings and thoughts are coming from and what you’re trying to achieve when you keep repeating the cycle of behaviour and thinking, along with tips and tools to help you move forward.
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Facing Regret Journaling Guide£7.49
Facing Regret Journaling Guide
“If I could turn back time, if I could find a way!”
Cher sang these words back in the eighties to lament her inability to go back in time and take back everything she regretted doing to the object of her affections. Hindsight, of course, gives us 20:20 vision hence why we experience regret. As humans, we will all experience and move on from this, but why do some of our regrets cause us to feel paralysed about how to move forward or have us going round in circles in a relationship or situation long past its sell-by-date>
Well, it’s because the way that we’re looking at things is the problem. We’ve got used to telling the story in the same way and beating ourselves up. It’s very possible that we think we’ve blown something or that we’ve ‘lost’. It’s wounding when we feel and think like this, and it sends us into a vicious cycle that knocks our sense of self. So what can we do instead?
In my Facing Regret Journaling Guide, I help you to compassionately interrogate your regret with a series of journaling prompts so that you can adjust your perspective enough to begin healing and feeling better. Acceptance, not of incorrect stories, but of what really happened and who you really are gets your engine going again. You stop feeling stuck and start moving forward.
In the guide, you’ll discover
- Why the very thing that you think shouldn’t have happened might be precisely the right thing that needed to happen
- What persistently regretting something can be a cover for
- Questions to help you look at the same story you’ve maybe told yourself a thousand times in an entirely different way
You will receive:
- Facing Regret Journaling Guide (PDF)
- Facing Regret Journaling Guide (MP3 audio version – 41 minutes)
- Journaling | Tips To Get You Started (PDF)
How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide£4.99
How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide
When we’re reliant on external esteem to feel happy and secure, we end up feeling anything but these; instead, we end up reliant on stuff, substances, unhealthy actions, and the validation of others. We look outside of us to feel better and end up feeling as if we have no control over our lives. Each time we experience an emotion that we have a negative association with, we try to push it down or away. In turn, when we want to feel good, we end up looking for artificial boosts that provide us with temporary relief and happy feelings but are underpinned by blame and shame.
It doesn’t have to be like this.
Clients, readers and listeners ask me about initial steps that they can take that will enable them to learn how to take care of their feelings and to calm down responses in situations where they tend to engage in unhealthy self-soothing. They do some of their worst self-destruction in response to feelings of loneliness, boredom or stress, often breaking No Contact because of the onset of discomfort and having no inner support and tools to respond in a constructive and loving manner.
This Quick Guide was created for students of my online courses, with many citing it as being invaluable as it’s designed to help you to get into the process quickly. It includes suggestions as well as prompts to help you brainstorm ways in which you can comfort you as well as promoting an honest conversation about the things that are dragging you down.
It includes the Feelings Diary Journaling Guide, which has prompts to help you support your self-soothing by jotting down your feelings as well as a Day Tracker worksheet, perfect for getting conscious, aware, and present about your day. While this worksheet is aimed at people who struggle with reaching out to someone toxic, the worksheet can simply be used to track your days so that you can gather data on what is and isn’t working for you.
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The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship eBook£11.00
The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship eBook
Most people if asked, would deny that they’d ever had a fantasy relationship as they’re associated with pretending to be with someone or in something that’s non-existent, however, it’s time for you to change what you think you know.
In this modern age of texts, email, Facebook, online dating, and casual relationships, it’s never been so easy to find yourself in a crumb filled fantasy relationship. An increasing number of people are satisfied with sprinklings of attention and interaction which they use to give themselves the illusion of being loved, cared for and in control because they get to avoid commitment, intimacy, and ‘full-on’ rejection.
The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship is for every woman who’s been caught short by their overactive imagination and their great expectations.
Struggled to get over a relationship that didn’t truly exist? Don’t understand how you wound up spending years with someone you hardly see? Keep letting your assumptions and projections run away with you?
It’s time to come back down to earth and face reality so you can take action in your present, face your real future, and get happy.
Acting as a companion guide to Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, the no holds barred ‘bible’ for understanding excuse filled, commitment dodging, unavailable men and the women that they fall back on for an ego stroke, shag, and a shoulder to lean on, I wanted to introduce a new role due to the sheer number of emails and comments I receive from women who actually believe that the crumbs that they’re receiving, particularly via cheap talk, grand promises, texts, email and Facebook are a relationship or ‘love’.
You need to read this if:
You’re an Escapist, dissatisfied with your current relationship, mentally checking out, complaining about your expectations not being met, and even starting an affair with someone else.
You’re a Crusher, ‘loving’ and admiring someone from a distance that puts you in that unreciprocated feelings setting.
You’re a Virtual, spending too much time surfing dating sites, relying on the written word and getting high off the buzz of a text or email coming through.
You’re a Tabber, angry, hurt and feeling rejected because your relationship is over so regaining a sense of control by devoting your time and energy to tracking your ex via social networking and poking around in his life.
The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship explains how fantasy relationships work, why they’re so attractive, the types of fantasy relationship and Mr Unavailable that you’re likely to be involved with, and provides practical tips and tools for breaking the habit and tackling issues such as rejection avoidance, and fear of abandonment, criticism and conflict. Delivered with my no-fluff dose of reality and plenty of humour, I want to empower you to let go of the illusions so that you can be available for an available relationship in the real world.
About this Version
This is a PDF and the pack of files, which includes a Feelings Diary worksheet, The Mini Guide To No Contact, Beliefs Guide, Get Out of Stuck (free version) and the Unsent Letters.
After you have been through checkout and paid, you will be given the option to download the file. The email contains links to each of the files in your purchase.
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Work Through Your No Contact Doubts Workbook£4.99
Work Through Your No Contact Doubts Workbook
It’s not uncommon to find it difficult to move forward after a breakup due to boundary issues or feeling overconnected through the likes of texting and social media. When this happens, it’s likely that you will consider or make the decision to go No Contact. Even though this is a healthy and often necessary decision, doubt can cause you not to make it or to keep breaking it once you’ve started.
My Work Through Your No Contact Doubts workbook helps you to uncover and work through your No Contact doubts so that you don’t undermine your feelings, needs and desires, but also so that you understand what’s truly driving you in those times of doubt.
Format: PDF (it’s editable so that you can type into it, or you can print it out).
No of pages: 9
After purchase, you will receive your download link via email.